So here’s the scenario: You have decided to go out alone on a Saturday night and you have just reached a club. You are confused as to how you should behave because you do not wish to look like an inferior person in the club.

Be cool, act confident

This is a very common situation that most people face when they go out alone. So trust me, its not strange or bizarre for you to feel this way. If you’re still new to this then you might find the idea of being alone in a club a little strange or odd but believe me, you’ll get used to it with time. When I first started going out alone, I felt uncomfortable because I didn’t know anyone in the clubs I used to go, and I didn’t know what to do. As long as you are thinking “what are they gonna say about me?” and stuff like that, you’re not going to have a good time. So make sure you calm your nerves down because until and unless you are calm and cool, you’ll not be able to ‘fit in’.

Tip: Getting drunk before you go out will make it much easier to talk to girls. It’s a temporary solution for boosting your confidence. Do it at your own risk though!

Clubbing alone for the first few times will not be exactly a good experience if you are not prepared. It’s normal to be nervous at the beginning. Heck, people are nervous even when they go with their friends. And you also know that if you give it some time, the nervousness will go away. So relax, and be prepared for a great night. As soon as you enter the club, be confident and try not to think that you are alone. Walk towards the bar and order your drink. You need to be yourself - you are there to have a great time. In the unlike event of someone coming to you and asking if you came alone, you can reply to this person by saying you’re waiting for your friends to come, or that you have lost your friends and you are trying to find them. It’s not uncommon to lose your friends in bigger clubs, so there you go.

Start with a drink

Start your night with a drink. Take a sit next to the bar or stand if there are no sits and order your drink. Stay there for a bit, you’re not in a hurry. Look at the people standing next to you. If anyone is looking at you, smile and start a conversation. You know a woman would be interested in you if she kept eye contact with you. If you managed to meet anybody interesting in the bar, you already won your first game. It’s always hard to start talking with a girl when you just arrived in the club, because in the beginning you won’t normally be very relaxed, but it’s still worth giving it a try. If nothing interesting is happening in the bar you need to move on.

Have a walk around

OK nothing special happened while having your drink in the bar, that’s totally fine. Now take a walk around, to see what’s going on. If while you are walking a woman stares at you, TALK TO HER! That’s why you are having your walk. You can always ask for a dance or do some smalltalk. You’ll also find that other rooms in the club might have better music, so be sure that you “explore” all of it. While we are at it, if a song you really like is played by the DJ, don’t hesitate to dance! I know it looks a bit weird dancing alone, but as long as you don’t over do it you should be fine. If you are still not having that much fun and you didn’t find any interesting people, take a break - take a cigarette.

Go out for a cigarette

I always like to go out for a cigarette, either if I am with friends or alone. It’s a good way to change atmosphere, have a break from dancing and get some fresh air. Apart from that, it’s a great way to meet new people. Usually I take the cigarettes with me, but I don’t have a lighter, so I find a good looking girl and ask for a light. Then it’s easy to start a conversation from there. If you can’t find anybody interesting in the smoking area, stay there by yourself - smokers go out by themselves all the time, because their friends might not smoke. What does that mean? It’s even easier to start a conversation! Because it’s easier to get the attention of a woman who’s standing there alone. Unfortunately, if the club doesn’t have a “smokers area” or if you don’t smoke, you can’t do any of that. You need to move on - as always.

Approach the woman you like

You find this really attractive woman and you want to get to know her. First of all, what you should NOT do is stay there, staring at her without doing anything. It’s 95% sure that she will not approach you. So what should you do? When you get the chance, walk towards her and start a conversation with her. You can win her affection by complimenting her on her looks and after talking to her for some time, you can always tell her that she is hot/sexy/whatever. Or that she has a great personality. Make sure that you have a smile on your face because no woman would like a man who looks too serious. Moreover, you can break the ice easily with a smile. If you find that this lady is with her friends you can also walk up to her and ask for a dance. She’ll say yes if she likes you and if she declines, move on - you had nothing and you lost nothing.

Don’t think about it too much - Talk at first sight

If you follow the tips on this page, you COULD have a great time when you go out alone. I am saying you could, because if you go alone but you don’t talk to any girls then you probably did something wrong. I think the trick to achieve this is not to think about it too much. Every time I am nervous and I think about it, it gets really hard to go and talk to a girl. But if I am determined, and I go out just for this purpose, I just don’t think about it. Not even for a second time. When a girl looks at me, I just talk. It could be a “Hi”, a “You are hot”, a “Hello beautiful”, whatever. And it works. So if you are going out by yourself, but you’re not enjoying it so much, I think you should work on this point, as this is probably what makes things harder for you…

Meet new people

Another thing to remember. You’re not there just for the girls. If you find a good guy you could go clubbing with him the next time, ask for his number. I quite often notice 1-2 more guys who came alone. So if you don’t like clubbing alone, just go and ask them if they came alone, and offer to go with them the next time they go out. They’ll probably appreciate that, and if they’re out for the same reasons as you, they’ll join you the next time.

I hope I’ve been helpful with this short piece of advice. It’s not that difficult to go to a club alone once you know how to act. The same thing applies when you’re thinking about going to a bar by yourself. After all, whether it’s a club or a bar, it doesn’t really matter as it only depends on you if you’re going to have a good night. You and your luck.